"Aim high, but do not aim so high that you totally miss the target. What really matters is that he will love you, that he will respect you, that he will honor you, that he will be absolutely true to you, that he will give you the freedom of expression and let you fly in the development of your own talents. He is not going to be perfect, but if he is kind and thoughtful, if he knows how to work and earn a living, if he is honest and full of faith, the chances are you will not go wrong, that you will be immensely happy."
— Gordon B. Hinckley
My first day in massage therapy class was a lot to consume. I am super excited for all the things I am going to learn this year. My teacher was going off about the "power of touch" and the importance of mainting professionalism with your clients as you are giving a massage. "Remember, you are using a really serious power...one that effect the brain and causes the body to change...You are using the power of touch. Often times, clients tend to fall in love with the people giving them massages..."
My first thought....GREAT! I`m down for a little loving! ;0)
My next thought....what is it that makes touch such a trigger point to so many emotions...
Luckily for me for our homework we were assigned to write a paper regarding our reasoning for choosing the massage therapy program and the ideas behind massage therapy. So, I got to go home and do some research! My research led me into what I did not realize really excited...."The SCIENCE of LOVE"
There is a reason why when we are in love we endure more then at other times and we submit to everything. Now, my dear readers, please don`t read this and base all your feelings for that "spark" you have been waiting for on this scientific evidence...you can still find your prince or princess and fall in love or whatever! These are just the reasons behind the emotion...I would hate to break up anyones dreams of finding their fairy tale! I mean, I`m still looking for mine!
Love really is: "All in your head"...The activation regions associated with intense romantic love are mostly on the right side of the brain, while the activation regions associated with facial attractiveness are mostly on the left. There is a Biochemistry to attraction and love. Love comes in three stages:
Lust-Which lasts weeks or maybe a few months. At this stage there is a release of hormones such as testosterone and oestrogen. You know that "weak in the knees" feeling you get when you first see a attractive person of the opposite sex? Well--it`s real...really a hormonal response! Ain`t that just dandy! ;0)
Attraction: This is your "romantic stage". This is a continual release of the "LOVE HORMONE:" that you hear most about. The PEA(phenylethylamine), which is a neurotransmitter chemical in the brain. This chemical release is responsible for the stress like symptoms you fell when you are "falling in love". (sweaty palms, increased heart rate, heavy breathing, etc) It is a natural form of amphetamine. And you all can go ahead and look up the result of amphetamine. The story behind, "Love at First Sight"-is associated with the direct response to a release of the PEA. This release is short lived...3-5 years. Which is perfect for the procreation stage that has been handed down from ancient times....wowser! But don`t worry, you can always work up another batch of PEA...so love lasts...forever!;0)
ATTACHMENT- Going to the chapel...(temple)...and we`re....gonna get married! (stage). Oxytocin is the chemical released here! And this is how we relate love to the power of touch! Oxytocin is the "mature love" chemical or...the "touch" chemical. Oxytocin is a brain peptide secreted from the pituitary gland in the brain. It`s the "holding hand fever" kind of feeling you get. This is the reason why touch in a relationship\marriage is so important. Just keep in mind that it doesn`t take much...just a little hand squeeze will improve your relationships dramatically! ;0) Keep in mind that ROMANTIC LOVE is more POWERFUL then LUST LOVE! That`s why it can last longer.
Don`t think just because you haven`t felt these "love tingles" that you are missing some hormone or you are broken or something. Truth is, you just may be functionally lacking in the chemistry of love...but it`s still there...in eeveryone! So get to class-and find your chemisty!
That`s the biochemistry. There are more parts to love related to physiology. a part of love that originates from the hypothalamus that is programmed into our DNA where men are attracted to women because they appear more fertile (ex. a waist size no more than 68 percent of the hips) and women... are attracted to men who appear strong and powerful due to the hunting gathering mentality of our ancient ancestors...we tend to seek "protection" and "SECURITY"...I left with this thought: Boys, don`t hate me because I want a wallet size as big as your muscles...it`s my natural instinct!
There are elements of love that I don`t even want to start going into...;0) But for all you die hard love fans...It`s out there...But there is something we always forget:
"True love is not so much a matter of romance as it is a matter of anxious concern for the well-being of one's companion."